Dear Beautiful Mom,

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The grief and pain of losing a child extends way beyond the void that is created by their absence. There are the daily activities, especially if your child was young, and/or still lived with you; there are the past memories that we think about that we want to remind them of and share a sweet moment of reflection; and then there is the future . . . the one we planned on having with our child.

**The loss of their life has forever changed our life.
**The loss of their presence has now left us with an open space of time that was supposed to be with them.
**The loss is heartbreaking and exhausting – both physically and mentally.

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Mom, there is no right or wrong way to mourn your loss and there is no manual that gives us specific guidelines for processing or healing. There is not a timeline that will make the loss automatically better – time is a buffer that helps soften the edges of what has happened but it does not “heal all wounds.” But wherever you are in your grief, there is always room for growth. There is a morning to decide what the day will hold – even if it only “holds” getting up and taking a shower. :). There is an afternoon to fill with work, errands, activities, or even a nap, and there is an evening to fill.

 

I am and will continue to be a work in progress, and I know that some days will be better than others so I allow for that, as I hope you do. Be kind to yourself mom – you are hurting; you are grieving your loss; and you are figuring out the “what now?”

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I love our group – each time we meet, whether there are 3 or 8 of us, I am blessed by your openness, honesty, smiles, hugs, and your love for your child. I pray the Lord’s blessings on you as you continue to move forward and that He will help you as you face each morning, each afternoon, and each evening.